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I do not know how relevant the MeToo movement has been in your country but is important to keep supporting its spirit.
If you are a woman you need to read this.
There needs to be an environment where women are safe to share their stories about abuse, so the times can truly change to an evironment where sexual "transgressions" are punished appropriately. Women are being discriminated against by men in more ways, more often than you realize and by those you trust. Women are fighting a battle, men are selectively blind to. I will explain why.
Naive good men assume other men are good, and trust everyone. Experienced good men know to be vigilant. I feel as though it is very hard for any good man to accept that his trust has been broken. This is one aspect of this problem, men not willing to accept that abuse is happening around them because it means waking up and realizing that life is different, the status quo has changed and that he needs to kick it in to high gear and protect his loved ones.
Why do bad men occur?
Teenagers/adolescents need to try out behavior before they can assess wether it fits their character and morals. This is a very simple concept. As a boy is growing he needs vigilant parents that provide boundries and manners, this foundation is vital for when the boy is put in situations where he needs to be a man.
Now realize that a huge percentage of children, globally, do not get the optimal conditions to understand when or what the right decisions are when they are put in situations where they need to show restraint, or to respect someone elses boundries. Now factor in peer pressure. A group of people without or with deficient morals/boundries are now edging on a person who does not have a stable foundation. Now factor in environment, what is socially acceptable behavior for me to do? If a child sees everyone dancing, they will be inclined to dance.
Every man has made mistakes in the past and unfortunately that means that many women have been used as target practice for a very long time as a direct consequence of bad or lack of parenting and environment.
This takes me back to the main issue of sexual harassment.
A global problem where women are objects not because men truly regard them that way but because men condition themselves to categorize women in to two categories:
The prima donna and the jezebel.
Any man telling you otherwise is a liar. I will give you a few examples:
1. A man watching porn does not value the actress the same he would a regular woman in his life. She is a Jezebel.
2. A man visiting a prostitue does not value her the same as he would a regular woman in his life. She is a jezebel.
Boys upon hearing the terms slut, promiscious for the first time, create a scoring system, consciously or subconsiously, evaluating women on wether they should persue them romatically or not. They start seeing certain women as having easy access, delivering quick satisfaction, with no strings attached but also as filthy and not worthy of the same respect he would give to a woman that does pass his scoring system. The jezebel.
It is very dangerous for women to be labeled as sluts especially when men feel entitled to the premise mentioned directly above.
My interpretation of the situation:
The predator feels empowered by the situation they are in.
Why am I here?
Deprived of a fantasy that he desperately wants to fulfill.
Especially if they are encouraged and emboldend by a person who is already doing the thing they fantasize about. They push to put themselves in that situation.
What do I get out of this?
Instant gratification is on their mind. Nothing else, not your feelings not your thoughts. You have become an object to do with as they please.
What are the consequences of me doing this?
The severity of the act is judged based upon arousal and perception of how high his chances are for evasion of discipline if that is even on his mind at all.
Then a choice has to be made.
Am I going to go through with this?
At this point there is nothing else present but lust, the person can still decide not to go through with it. This is very hard moment for anyone to control themselves. They have assessed the situation, they are confident in their chances. The opportunity has presented itself. They being given every go-ahead, everything seems perfectly aligned, they have thought about everything. Except for the fact that they are not accounting for you to give your consent.
How can I avoid the consequences of this?
This part is most important. Many women have died because a man wants to avoid the consequences of raping her.
I can see the sunshine at the end of the tunnel.
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